Learning to Share
December 28, 2010 · Posted in Adult Children, Parenting · Permalink

By Laura Stephens

I have only recently begun living with my boyfriend and am already face to face with the complications of sharing a tiny 10 x 14 bedroom. Who knew I was such a terrible “sharer”? I like to fall asleep to background noise of the TV. He likes sleeping with the fan on high. He likes the door open, I like it closed. His alarm goes off at 5 AM and he hits snooze for 45 minutes. At first the battle lines were drawn and we both automatically clung to our preferences and habits – unwilling to come to the other side. And with self righteous indignation no less. It seems that sharing a bedroom as adults has catapulted us back into pre-schoolers who refuse to give up their favorite toy.

As time has passed we both realized that we needed to use the basic skills our parents spent so much time teaching us:  sharing. So now I have detoxed from the lullaby of the TV and he only hits snooze once. The fan is on high, but the door gets closed. Peace has descended on the battle ground of the bedroom.

You do your kids a giant favor by setting the groundwork for sharing –sometimes that means taking turns, sometimes compromising and sometimes just plain old doing something together. I am learning, in this new life stage, that sharing is a skill that will always be handy no matter what point you are in life.

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