Healthy Self Esteem is the Cure for Competitiveness
September 16, 2010 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Relationships · Permalink

You thought  you were done with junior high school. Then you had a baby.

Now the worries about being invited to play dates and birthday parties has begun.  What about serving anything with white flour when friends come over when you neighbor only has organics? The not-so-subtle competition for the most “advanced” child, who takes more classes, which preschools accepted you. It is enough to cause a nervous breakdown.

Mothers in our groups are really feeling the pressure out in the world and it cuts into their enjoyment of motherhood. In many ways, motherhood seems to have become a competitive sport.

The only antidote is remembering that healthy self-esteem is feeling that you are no better, or no worse, than someone else. We all have the same essential worth. Working toward not feeling smug because your baby is talking a lot, or believing you are a terrible mother if you don’t make all your baby food is the goal.

All this competition is just a reflection of how worried parents are about doing a good job. So give yourselves and your peers a break. Practice healthy self-esteem.

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