It’s Really Outer-Parenting vs. Inner Parenting
November 26, 2009 · Posted in K-5 Kids, Media, Mental Health, Parenting, Preschoolers, Pressure on Children, Spoiling · Permalink

1101091130_400Over-parenting has made it to the cover of Time Magazine! An easy read, the article outlines how an over-investment in childrens’ “success” coupled with exaggerated worries about safety has lead to an odd combination of pressure and coddling.

What is really fascinating is that at the same time the American Psychological Association has released Stress in America 2009,  showing that parents are very out of touch with their children’s anxiety. Distracted by the focus on achievement and sheltering children from pain, parents are missing the point.  Children are capable of more independence and very much need our emotional support for their inner lives.

Since no parent wants to be unaware of their child’s emotional life this is a great wake up call. A reorienting of our values toward the inner life rather than the outer trappings will help children feel a real sense of protection and support.

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  1. Amber
    December 3rd, 2009 | 11:30 pm

    Wow, I was surprised by the Stress in America study. I always feel I am TOO involved in my kids heads!

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