November 17, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Separation/Divorce · Permalink

mammamiaAsk any girl-from 7 to 70- who the most important people in her life are. You will be hard pressed to find anyone who doesn’t answer,”my girlfriends.” Even with the phases of distance or jealousy that are usually a part of female friendships, connections with other women are like the spinal column of your body. They are the mainstay of support, strength and flexibility.

The solace and hilarity that comes from a great girlfriend is unsurpassed. The ability to deal concurrently with things of such depth and such ridiculousness is the hallmark of girlfriendness.  It is your girlfriends that will listen to the never-ending concerns about your children and your weight, your love life, work life and what shoes you get for the fall.

I asked some girls/women ages 7-72 to explain why their girlfriends are important.  Here is what they said:

7 year old

“You need to be understood, and boys sometimes don’t. They are fun to play with and it’s good because they understand what it’s like to be a girl. There’s this movie, Mama Mia, and if you want to understand more about girlfriends you should watch it!”

23 year old

“I would die without my friends.  When I just couldn’t get out of bed after my boyfriend and I broke up my three best friends showed up, dragged me out of bed, made me shower, get dressed, put on make up and go to a club.  They reminded me that life goes on! Most romances end but girlfriends are forever.”

34 year old

“My mom’s friends totally understand how strange it feels to be a parent. It’s hard for anyone else to really understand – how could we be the ones hiring a babysitter when we were just the babysitters. It’s too crazy! ”

48 year old

“It’s like we take turns now, each of us has gone through something so hard, a parent dying, a kid with depression, a divorce, losing a job. Thank god it doesn’t usually happen to us at the same exact time because we all just rally and take care of the one who needs help. Through it all we still laugh so much.”

72 year old

“We constantly say “How could we be in our seventies?” We feel the same inside, although outside is a totally different story!  The only thing that helps keep the fear of losing my keys, wallet and mind at bay is that we all don’t know if we are coming or going! It becomes a comedy of errors.”

So make sure this year you take time away from children, work, and spouse and go away for a day, a night or a weekend with your ladies.  Feed the relationship that will give back in the most unconditional way throughout your life.

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  1. Leslie
    November 17th, 2009 | 10:38 am

    As a 25 year old, when I think of my best female friends I think of all of us going to breakfast the morning after a night out – joking with each other about the embarrassing things we did, re-assuring each other “his new girlfriend is nowhere near as great as you”, then spending the afternoon in sweats together watching Sex and the City reruns. Those days spent with my girls are the absolute best.

  2. Caroline
    November 20th, 2009 | 9:11 am

    I can’t agree more. When I think of all the support I have gotten from my girlfriends, through thick and thin, I can’t image how I would done it. Especially taking care of kids-my friends keep me sane!

  3. tina
    November 22nd, 2009 | 8:17 pm

    how wonderfully put, girlfriends are the spinal column of your body.

    having a girlfriend to share all of iife’s up and downs is a blessing,.

  4. Amber
    December 3rd, 2009 | 11:32 pm

    My sister is my best friend and I feel like I couldn’t live without her!

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