Questions About The “Perfect Mother” Who Drove High and Drunk
August 11, 2009 · Posted in Child Abuse, Mental Health, Parenting · Permalink

175649281_b91b4031bbThe unfolding story of Diane Schuler becomes more disturbing each day. Trying to make sense of the incomprehensible, I try to decide what is the worst part of the story. The idea that she was involved in her brother’s three children’s death? The knowledge that the surviving boy’s whole life story will be determined by this event?  The fact that this woman had 10 vodkas and marijuana in her system and drove with five children in the car? The children’s experience in the car right before the crash? Perhaps it is just the overwhelming level of denial that must have existed in this family.

I keep trying to to hold on to my compassion. While attempting not to judge or feel disdain I find myself feeling sad for Diane Schuler.  How much energy must have gone into keeping the facade of the “perfect mother”. What inner turmoil would lead one to renounce all responsibility, protectiveness, and the cherishing of life? What could have made her obliterate herself with drugs and alcohol while driving with five children who she loved?

I wish I had the answers but all I have are questions.

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  1. Liz
    August 11th, 2009 | 9:23 am

    The details of this story are so disturbing…as a mother, I cannot fathom the state one would need to be in to put their children’s lives at risk like that.

  2. KCF
    August 12th, 2009 | 12:54 pm

    I and the rest of my family discovered my brother’s extreme alcoholism (when he was diagnosed with advanced stage cirrhosis). We were all completely shocked. There is no end some alcoholics will go to hide their disease and there is no end some families will go to deny the clues that do sneak out. My heart goes to all the families involved. It’s a very very sad story.

  3. Molly
    August 22nd, 2009 | 9:54 am

    To KFC,
    Thanks for the honesty about your own family. I think Diane Shuler’s story has made us all take a look at our families and our own habits. It is so upsetting to think that something could get that out of control without people knowing or intervening.

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